Interrupting the Shame-Spiral

If you've ever tried meditating, you may share this experience I've had of realizing I’m lost in thought, and then immediately giving myself a proverbial slap on the wrist: Why can't you focus? You're supposed to be meditating! Man, you're so bad at this. You're never going to achieve inner peace.

Going around this little shame-filled merry-go-round again and again does not exactly make meditation a serene or appealing activity.

But I discovered a little tool that I started using last month when I went on a 4-day virtual meditation retreat. When I catch my mind wandering or ruminating, I immediately respond with a cheerful “Welcome back!” I greet myself as if I were greeting a beloved friend who's returned from a visit. This phrase helps me feel like it's a celebration to be back here, in the room, in my body, in the present moment. It interrupts that barrage of self-criticism and even helps diffuse the negative energy around it. It reminds me that I can be kind to myself.

So, I share that little nugget here with you. What little phrases or tools do you have for interrupting the shame spiral? Come share yours with community members in Mother Den!


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Danielle LaSusa Ph.D. is a Philosophical Coach, helping new moms grapple with what it means to make a person. She is the co-creater and co-host of Think Hard podcast, which brings fun, accessible, philosophical thinking to the real world. To join her mailing list, subscribe here.

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